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HVP June 2019

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Page 14 of 35 n Hudson Valley Parent 15 Kids can't always get what they want Hudson Valley psychology professor Dr. Paul Schwartz offers advice to parents struggling not wanting to spoil their children but also wanting to give their children material things. He says, "Sometimes children cry. They can't always get what they want." Some parents feel guilty when they hear their children cry, no matter what the initial reason. Call me "Mean Mom", but I don't. If my 4-year-old is hysterical due to her own unrealistic demands, crying is helping her learn how to get over it. Schwartz also reminds parents to not let guilt lead to overindulgence. Time away from children often results in parental guilt. As a working mom, I know this feeling well. But Schwartz warns, "Showering children with gifts is not an adequate substitute for your time. Your love and attention are always more valuable and desired." Taleeya Parker (center) makes sure that her children are independent, respectful and considerate through her expectations of them. It's possible to unspoil kids Educational psychologist Dr. Michele Borba says yes, it's possible to unspoil children. She suggests, "Start by not apologizing for things outside your control." If weather cancels an anticipated outing, empathize and encourage acceptance, but don't be sorry. Teach patience and empathy to your child. Point out other people's emotional reactions and praise any efforts to help others when they occur. Borba insists that parents need to stand their ground and not tolerate selfishness or rude behavior. Don't give in to unreasonable demands, even for your own sanity and stick to consequences if verbal disapproval fails to work. Jill Valentino is a wife, mom of two, elementary educator and lifelong resident of the Hudson Valley. You can find her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Medium @doublesmom77. ...We take care of kids... 104 Fulton Avenue (Main oce) Poughkeepsie, NY 12603 845.452.1700 THE PEDIATRICIANS OF THE HUDSON VALLEY SM )ZEF1BSLt1PVHILFFQTJFt'JTILJMM )PQFXFMM+VODUJPOt,JOHTUPO .PEFOBt/FXCVSHIt3IJOFCFDL 8F,OPX,JET(FUUP,OPX6T Visit our website or call our main number to schedule an appointment with your Favorite Doc in our Hyde Park and Poughkeepsie offices. Always accepting new patients. Open 365 days a year. 24-hour availability. Over 70 insurance plans accepted. Follow us on facebook & twitter Find out why Hudson Valley Parent magazine readers voted so many of our providers as their "FAVORITE DOCS!" Make an appointment with your favorite doc, and find them on our website. And also check out our site for helpful health tips for kids of all ages. Adrian Gruszko, MD Hyde Park Office Robert Felix, MD Hyde Park Office Bobby C. Gearing III, MD Hyde Park Office Michael Kirpan, MD Poughkeepsie Office Puja H. Singh, MD Poughkeepsie Office :PIBCMPFTQB×PM :PIBCMPFTQB×PM Michelle Patrick, CPNP Poughkeepsie Office Help Your Kids Stay Healthy with an Annual Physical. Call today to schedule a visit at your Local CMG office. We hear you! From prenatal care through adolescence, The Children's Medical Group is all about kids. That means we're all about respecting and listening to parents – you know your child better than anyone. Look to us to respond to all your concerns, with eight "local" offices and Providers and staff who are the best of the best. Caring for your kids is our life. And we wouldn't have it any other way.

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