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30 Hudson Valley Parent n May 2018 out is a common pitfall moms fall into when they feel they just can't say no. "I try not to leave anything off the schedule because each person's activities are important to them," says Traver. "If a no is needed, I have no problem uttering that word." When you fall victim to a tight schedule, sometimes plans get missed, shortened or nixed completely. Traver encourages moms to be flexible and patient while establishing a rhythm. "It's okay if you can't do everything," says Traver. "It's also okay if the kids are given fast food, baseball field food or cereal for dinner. They're getting fed, they're socializing and they're being physical." Leave some room where spontaneity can rule the day! "Our weekends are mostly spontaneous," says Ramos. "I like to check on my friends and family, see what they're doing, and always try to go to a kid-friendly place!" Enjoy "me time" Although scheduling time for yourself may seem impossible, moms require self-care. "I allow myself a break," says Lang. "If I want to plop on the coach one night instead of cleaning, I will. I've also recently joined a women's soccer league which has been a great stress reducer." Making time for yourself does not always have to be difficult suggests Traver, who often utilizes the downtime she gets while her kids are at sports practice or music lessons. "I'd catch up on paperwork, go for a walk or catch some much needed z's," says Traver. "Sometimes it just became me time." Michelle Peterson is a freelance writer living in Poughkeepsie with her spouse and two sons. BUSY MOMS (Continued from Page 29)